Charles Garfield
Shanti Project founder and author
Some of the most profound growth of our lives can happen in the home stretch, the years after age sixty or so. It’s a time when we can finally crystallize the meaning of what we’ve been and done and fully expand into the self we’ve always intended to be. But, says psychologist Charles Garfield, that can only happen if we first loosen the grip of the life we’ve led so far, the one that’s been focused outwardly—on activity, achievement, and the idea of success—and let our souls lead the way.
In Our Wisdom Years, Dr. Garfield skillfully and practically guides readers through nine tasks that can transform the struggles of aging, bringing fulfillment, joy, and serenity. Drawing on the understandings that come from both his work as acclaimed “success guru” in the 1980s and the truths distilled from volunteering with those at the end of life, Garfield offers a fresh, uplifting vision of the wholeness that awaits us.
Dr. Garfield shares how we can gracefully let go of the younger selves we’ve been and walk through the opening that keeps beckoning toward this soul-driven version of later life. He encourages us to take the risk of being fully alive as our years pass. This is no small task—aging is not for the faint of heart! The beautiful paradox of growing older is that none of the gifts of age are available without the kind of loss that forces us to confront mortality in a way we can’t deny. In the face of loss, we’re changed and expanded by truths that come from the heart, not the mind. We learn that we’re more than our bodies, part of something much larger than we are, and that love and kindness matter most of all.
Special praise for Our Wisdom Years
"Our Wisdom Years provides a step-by-step guide to growth and development in the autumn of life. Dr. Garfield cuts right through the layers of self-protection we wrap around ourselves to open up the possibilities of living in authentic relationship with our true self, our loved ones, and the mysteries of eternity. The reader will not find ready-made answers here, but what he or she will find instead is Garfield’s gentle, courageous voice, offering creative ideas and practical exercises that serve as guides toward finding one’s own authentic answers to the absolutely unique questions of our lives. This is a book best used by lingering with it, not rushing through―a book of questions each of us might ponder in the silence of the heart until we hear the response of the still small voice within."
—Steve Zemmelman, PhD, Jungian Analyst and Associate Clinical Professor,
Department of Psychiatry, University of California at San Francisco
"Our Wisdom Years offers a gentle, thorough, and soulful way into life’s deepest and most challenging stage―the path of aging. Although he is an accomplished psychologist with many stories to tell (including, most wonderfully, his own), Dr. Garfield writes like a gentle friend. This book is a guide for the journey into ‘the glorious mess of self,’ at a time in life when self is most poignant. Full of questions to ponder, exercises to engage, and thoughts to contemplate, Our Wisdom Years will help you foster ‘your own relationship to eternity."
—Norman Fischer, poet, Zen priest, author of The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination
and the Bodhisattva Path